It seems we live in a world where everyone tells you to forgive and move on. That you should not harbor any hatred or ill feelings towards people who have wronged you, abandoned you or told you to take a back seat in life and let it take its course. But those feelings seem to have contributed to many successful people using it as fuel for their fire to succeed. From Eminem to Michael Jordan to Robert Kiyosaki, all of them at one point heard they will not amount to anything and their dreams won’t come true and they all specifically cite these quotes in their biographies, books and movies as something that contributed positively to their lives.
But what if your entire family and circle of friends didn’t believe your dreams are going to come true and constantly discourage you to go for them. If you were constantly compared to your relatives who have impressive fancy degrees like Phd’s and Lawyer degree, which is more important to them than the fact they are now in debt for the next 10-15 years to pay off their student bills. This is my case, I get beaten down constantly about my dreams of becoming a successful at an early age, like it is some sort of myth. The more I hear of this, though, the more fuel is added to the fire of my desire to “make it.”
Every time I fail at something, I feel the need to get up and trudge further no matter the amount of negativity I am going to here for not succeeding another time. But I just hear all the time that I need to forgive and let other people’s opinions slide.
But the question I ask you is what is so wrong about collecting and harboring a hatred for the lack of belief and ignorance you get in your life where closed minded people tell you a 40 year career is the only viable option in this world? I think those who do not use it as a catalyst to drive themselves even harder are sorely losing one of the best motivators for success and that is revenge.
I hope you all don’t let these events in your life just slide by the waste side and embrace them to drive you to accomplish even more, by turning them into a motivator rather than depressant. Maybe I am just that driven or maybe I have learned to properly take criticism and turn it into a positive by simply remembering one little true quote. “They don’t build statues for critics.”
